“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD” (Proverbs 18:22).
There are godly pre-ordained blessings and reasons as to why this scripture does NOT say, “Whoso findeth a “single woman” to make her a wife…”, or a “divorced” woman, “widowed”, woman, or “woman whose been married more than once”, so on and so on.
Because of a gross misinterpretation of this all to familiar scripture, so many single women are still waiting year after year to be found, so many married women think that they are already a “good thing” based solely on the fact that they are married, and so many divorced women have “disqualified” themselves from ever again being a “good thing” to be found.
Also, because of many passed down religious teachings and traditional thinking that many believe that it is after the man marries the woman that he makes her a wife. In the eyes of God, nothing could be further from the truth. A man may “take” a woman to be his wife, but it is GOD who “makes” a woman a wife. Semantics? No! Let’s look at another very familiar scripture.
“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18),
It was the LORD GOD who said that is was not good that the man should be alone. And it was the LORD GOD who came up with the SOLUTION for this problem. He said, “I will make him an help meet for him”. When God created the woman, He created her to be a “help meet” for the man. Notice that he created “the woman” to be a “help meet”! A single woman is a “woman”. A married woman is still a “woman”. So is a woman who has been married more than once, still a “woman”. The divorced woman is still a “woman”, and so is a widow still a “woman”.
God did not limit the blessing of being a “help meet” or a “good thing” to only the single woman or a married woman. In His divine knowledge, God knew that there would be single, married, divorced, widowed women, and women in a state of marriage separation. God is Smart! He knew right from the beginning that there would be different types of marital status among His daughters to come. Acts 10:34 tells us that He is no respecter of persons (which also means not being prejudice about their marital status). So, how did He make it so that any of these women can enjoy the blessing of God to be a “good thing” regardless of their marital status? The answer is “the blessing” in the woman to be a good thing!
The power of God for a woman to be a “good thing” is not in the fact that she IS a woman. It is the power of God IN the woman, in every woman, that makes her “blessed” to be a “good thing”. This blessing to be a “good thing” is as much in the married woman, the divorced, and widowed woman as it is in the single woman. But it is not automatic! Being a woman does not “automatically” make you a “good thing”. Why? Because God also gave every woman the “will” and “right” to make a choice as to whether or not she wants to be a “good thing” to someone. God has empowered her with the “will” and the “blessing” to be a “good thing” when “she” makes that decision.
Even better, it is when the woman decides that she will be a “wife”, “help meet”, and “good thing” in service to GOD first, then, in ministry to the man that is (or is to be) her husband, that is when she is really and truly the kind of “WIFE” who is divinely worthy to be found!